I Confess: It Pays To Be Good To Others

I’ve never been the kind of person who looks for a reward for doing what I know is right. But I’ll admit, it feels pretty good when you are able to reap the seeds you sow.

Treat people how you want to be treated.

We have all heard this saying. But, over the years, I have truly experienced the meaning of this statement. There are events in my life that always remind me of why it is most important to be kind to others. 

Just the other day, I wrote a Melanated Queen Confession post. It read as follows: 

It always pays to be kind to people.

You are guaranteed to see them again. The seed you plant may one day grow taller than you. Be careful how you treat it.

Be humble.

This post was inspired after I had experienced a long week of my moral and ethical compass being constantly challenged. Truthfully, I found myself in the middle of conversation after conversation that  revolved around my attachment, commitment, and dedication to serving others. 

fill my cupNow, don’t get me wrong, I can be a softy. I know this. But honestly, I just believe that God has blessed me with so many opportunities and he expects me to do my part to help his other children.

Now, the beginning of the week started with a thoughtful and kind Facebook post written by one of my former students. She found me on social media and shared some very sweet words regarding our experience working together while she was in college. Her words reminded me of how much I loved, and still love, my students. This set the tone for my week, and it was a beautiful reminder of how important it is to be good to those who God blesses you to serve. 

Unfortunately, the rest of the week was filled with questions regarding my approach to serving others.

I mean, in every aspect of my life!

Not just at work, not just at home, not just on the phone with friends—-everywhere!!!!!

Finally, the week ended, and I traveled across town to pick up a weekend treat for my husband and I. To my surprise, I ran into another former student. Now, I’ve never been one to ask for a hook-up when I see people I know at their jobs. In fact, I think that is rude and inconsiderate. However, this young lady blessed me with a very gracious and unexpected discount. And for that, I am grateful.


Here is the thing: I am sure if I was a jerk to either of these young ladies, I would not have received such a complimentary post or considerate discount. It is just a simple reminder that it pays to be a positive influence in someone’s life. 

Now, you cant convince me otherwise. 

Besides, God has consistently proven to me that the foundation you build, will carry the house you will have to live in. 

There were times when those same students gave me comfort when I lost the very job that brought us together. 

Lesson learned: don’t comprise your integrity for anyone. 

So, don’t mind me. I was born to serve others…….and I’m not changing anytime soon. 

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Dr. Lauren Meeks

Confessions Of A Melanated Queen

Confessions of A Melanated Queen: Complexities of the Modern Black Woman, is comprised of controversial and thought-provoking commentary related to life, marriage, and family, through the lens of a millennial African American woman


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